The behavior of a narcissist after a breakup can vary depending on the individual and the specific circumstances of the relationship. While some narcissists may cry and beg for their partner to come back, others might react differently, such as becoming angry, blaming the other person, or even trying to devalue and discard them further.
The reasons why a narcissist might cry and beg for someone to come back can be multifaceted and may include:
Fear of abandonment: Narcissists often have a deep fear of being abandoned or rejected. When someone leaves them, it may trigger feelings of insecurity and vulnerability, leading them to desperately try to win the person back to maintain their sense of control and self-worth.
Need for admiration: Narcissists crave admiration and validation from others. If their partner leaves, it can shatter their ego and self-image, causing them to seek approval and validation by trying to get the person back.
Loss of control: Narcissists like to be in control of their relationships and manipulate others to fulfill their needs. When someone leaves them, they lose control over the person, which can be distressing for them.
Hoovering: "Hoovering" is a term used to describe the tactic that some narcissists use to suck their former partners back into the relationship. They might resort to crying, begging, or promising to change as a way to manipulate and regain control over the person.
Lack of genuine emotional connection: Despite their self-centered behavior, some narcissists may still feel a sense of attachment to their partners. This attachment, though not based on authentic love or empathy, can lead them to cry and beg in an attempt to maintain the relationship.
It's crucial to understand that these actions are often manipulative attempts to regain control and not genuine displays of remorse or the desire to change. It is generally not recommended to go back into a relationship with a narcissist as their behavior is unlikely to change, and the cycle of manipulation and emotional abuse may continue.
If you find yourself dealing with a narcissistic partner or struggling after leaving such a relationship, consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you navigate the healing process and set healthy boundaries.