Yes, narcissists often enjoy driving others "crazy" when they are called out on their behavior and believe they are successful in gaslighting them. Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that involves distorting or denying the truth to make the victim doubt their own perceptions, memories, and sanity. Narcissists use gaslighting as a way to maintain control and power over their victims and avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
When a narcissist successfully gaslights someone, they can derive a sense of satisfaction and superiority. Here's why:
Control and Power: Narcissists crave control and power over others. Gaslighting allows them to twist the narrative in their favor, making the other person doubt themselves and become more reliant on the narcissist's version of reality.
Validation of Superiority: Successfully gaslighting someone reinforces the narcissist's belief in their superiority and intelligence. It serves as evidence to them that they can outmaneuver and manipulate others.
Emotional Manipulation: Gaslighting can lead to emotional turmoil in the victim, and the narcissist might take pleasure in knowing they have that level of control over someone's emotions.
Sense of Triumph: To narcissists, relationships are often seen as competitions. If they can successfully gaslight someone into doubting their perceptions or feelings, they may feel victorious in this "battle."
Avoiding Accountability: By gaslighting, narcissists can deflect blame and avoid taking responsibility for their hurtful or inappropriate actions.
It's important to recognize gaslighting for what it is and seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional if you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist. Gaslighting can be incredibly damaging to one's self-esteem, mental health, and overall well-being. Setting boundaries and, if necessary, removing yourself from toxic relationships are vital steps toward regaining control over your life and healing from the effects of gaslighting.