Vulnerable or covert narcissists, also known as "closet" or "introverted" narcissists, display many of the same traits as grandiose narcissists but in a more subdued manner. They tend to be hypersensitive, shy, and may suffer from low self-esteem. Unlike grandiose narcissists who seek attention and admiration openly, covert narcissists may appear more reserved and withdrawn.
One key difference between grandiose and covert narcissists is their approach to relationships and the potential for discarding partners. While grandiose narcissists might be more prone to discarding partners when they no longer serve their needs or when they find a more attractive source of supply, covert narcissists often have a more dependent and emotionally needy nature.
Covert narcissists may have a stronger fear of abandonment and rejection, which can make them less likely to initiate a breakup or discard their partners. They might fear being alone and struggle to find new sources of supply. Instead of openly discarding partners, covert narcissists may use manipulation, guilt-tripping, or passive-aggressive behaviors to keep their partners in the relationship, even if it is dysfunctional.
However, it is important to note that individuals with narcissistic traits can vary greatly in their behaviors and actions. Not every covert narcissist will behave in the same way, and some may still engage in discarding behavior if they feel threatened or find another source of supply that fulfills their needs better.
As with any personality trait, it's essential to recognize that people are unique individuals, and not all narcissists will fit neatly into specific categories. Additionally, if you suspect that you are dealing with a narcissistic partner or are experiencing challenges in your relationship, seeking professional advice and support can be beneficial. A qualified therapist can help you navigate the complexities of the situation and provide guidance on how to cope with a challenging partner.