In situations involving narcissists, hoovering refers to the narcissist's attempt to draw the target (the person they previously discarded or abused) back into a relationship or interaction. A smear campaign, on the other hand, is when a narcissist spreads false or damaging information about the target to others, often to discredit and isolate the target.
If the narcissist successfully hoovers you back into a relationship after a smear campaign, it can indeed cause confusion or questioning among their close circle, including their "flying monkeys" (people who support and enable the narcissist's behavior). There are several possible reactions and scenarios that might unfold:
Flying monkeys might be surprised or skeptical: Some of the people who were part of the smear campaign might be surprised to see the narcissist back with the target. They may question the credibility of the smear campaign or be uncertain about the reasons for the reunion.
Flying monkeys might double down on the smear campaign: Instead of questioning the narcissist's narrative, some flying monkeys may continue to support the narcissist and intensify their efforts to discredit the target. They might view the reunion as temporary or believe that the target has been manipulated into returning.
Some flying monkeys might distance themselves: The narcissist's close circle may start to question the consistency of the narrative and decide to distance themselves from the situation altogether. They may not want to be involved in the drama or emotional rollercoaster.
Flying monkeys may not be aware of the hoovering: In some cases, the narcissist may be very adept at hiding their hoovering attempts from their close circle. They may keep their interactions with the target discreet, making it harder for others to recognize the dynamic.
It's essential to remember that each situation is unique, and the responses of the narcissist's close circle can vary widely. Some people might see through the narcissist's tactics, while others might remain loyal and continue to support the narcissist's version of events.
If you find yourself back in a relationship with a narcissist after a smear campaign, it's crucial to recognize the patterns and dynamics at play. Narcissistic relationships can be toxic and emotionally damaging. Seeking support from a therapist or counselor who understands narcissistic abuse can be helpful in navigating these challenging situations and making informed decisions about your well-being.