While it is possible for a narcissist to have moments of clarity or self-awareness, it is generally unlikely for them to recognize their behavior in the same way a non-narcissistic person might. Narcissists have deep-rooted personality traits and defense mechanisms that make it challenging for them to truly introspect or accept their faults and shortcomings.
However, in the context of narcissistic relationships, it is not uncommon for a narcissist to devalue and discard their current supply (partner) if they believe they can get more satisfaction from a previous supply or find a new one they perceive as more appealing. Narcissists constantly seek narcissistic supply (attention, admiration, and validation) from others, and they may switch between sources of supply based on their changing needs or desires.
If a narcissist believes that their previous supply was more fulfilling or provided them with a greater sense of admiration, they might attempt to return to that person. This phenomenon is sometimes referred to as "hoovering" – a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to try to draw a previous partner back into the relationship.
It's important to note that this behavior is not indicative of genuine love or care for the previous supply. Instead, it stems from the narcissist's need for validation and control. If the narcissist feels they can reestablish control over a previous partner or gain more narcissistic supply from them, they may attempt to do so.
If you find yourself involved with a narcissistic individual who engages in these manipulative behaviors, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Establishing healthy boundaries and distancing yourself from the narcissist may be necessary for your emotional and psychological health.