When an empath goes incognito on a narcissist and flying monkey, it means that the empath decides to disengage from the narcissist and the people (flying monkeys) who support and enable the narcissist's behavior. The empath may choose to create some distance and establish boundaries to protect their emotional well-being and mental health from the toxic dynamics of the relationship.
Here's what might happen when an empath goes incognito:
Less Emotional Manipulation: By disengaging, the empath reduces the narcissist's ability to emotionally manipulate or control them. Narcissists often thrive on eliciting emotional reactions from their targets, and when the empath becomes less reactive, the narcissist may lose interest or find other sources of emotional supply.
Narcissistic Injury: When the empath stops providing the attention, validation, or admiration that the narcissist seeks, it can cause a narcissistic injury. The narcissist might react with anger, retaliation, or attempts to draw the empath back into the relationship through guilt or manipulation.
Flying Monkey Response: Flying monkeys are individuals who support and defend the narcissist, often doing their bidding. When the empath goes incognito, flying monkeys may try to persuade the empath to return to the narcissist's circle or may engage in gossip or character attacks. They might also try to guilt-trip the empath into resuming contact with the narcissist.
Improved Emotional Health: Despite the initial challenges, going incognito can be beneficial for the empath's emotional health. It allows them to focus on their own needs, break free from the toxic patterns, and start the healing process.
Self-Discovery and Empowerment: Going incognito can provide the empath with an opportunity to rediscover their identity, values, and boundaries. It empowers the empath to prioritize their well-being and reclaim control over their life.
Reduced Drama: By disengaging, the empath may experience a reduction in drama and chaos that often accompanies interactions with narcissists and their enablers.
Establishing Healthy Boundaries: Going incognito allows the empath to set and enforce healthy boundaries, protecting themselves from further harm and manipulation.
It is important to note that going incognito or implementing no contact with a narcissist and their flying monkeys can be challenging, as they may try various tactics to regain control. For this reason, seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist who understands narcissistic dynamics and emotional abuse can be crucial for the empath's recovery and protection during this process.