In a relationship involving a narcissist, there can be complex dynamics that might be difficult for outsiders to fully understand. It's crucial to remember that each person's experience and reaction in such a situation can vary based on their personality, past experiences, and individual coping mechanisms. However, some possible reasons why an old supply (someone who was in a relationship with a narcissist) might know about the narcissist's new supply and still engage in sexual relations could include:
Trauma Bonding: A trauma bond is a strong emotional connection that forms between an abuser (in this case, the narcissist) and the victim (the old supply). The bond is often characterized by a cycle of highs and lows, intermittent reinforcement, and emotional manipulation. Despite knowing the narcissist's harmful behaviors, the old supply might still feel emotionally attached and have difficulty breaking free from the relationship.
Emotional Attachment and Cognitive Dissonance: The old supply may have developed strong emotional attachments to the narcissist over time. Even though they are aware of the negative aspects of the relationship, they might experience cognitive dissonance, which is a mental discomfort that arises when a person holds contradictory beliefs. This can lead them to rationalize and justify staying in the relationship or engaging in sexual activities.
Fear of Retaliation or Repercussions: Narcissists can be manipulative and controlling, and they may use fear tactics to keep the old supply in their grasp. The old supply might fear negative consequences or retaliation from the narcissist if they were to completely cut ties or reject sexual advances.
Low Self-Esteem and Dependency: The old supply's self-esteem may have been eroded during their time with the narcissist. They may have become dependent on the narcissist for validation and a sense of worth. This dependence can make it difficult for them to break away from the relationship or assert their boundaries.
Hoping for Change or Reconciliation: The old supply may still have hope that the narcissist will change or that the relationship can be salvaged. They might engage in sexual activities, hoping it will lead to a rekindling of the relationship or a return to the honeymoon phase they experienced early on.
Feeling Obligated or Guilty: The old supply may feel obligated to the narcissist due to past promises, shared experiences, or feelings of guilt. The narcissist may exploit these emotions to keep the old supply entangled in the relationship.
It's important to understand that these reasons don't justify the narcissist's behavior or the old supply's actions. Narcissistic relationships can be emotionally damaging and toxic, and it's essential for individuals involved with narcissists to seek support, counseling, and help to break free from the harmful cycle. If you or someone you know is in such a situation, consider reaching out to a therapist or