The preference of a narcissist not to talk on the phone is not a universally accepted characteristic, but some observations and theories have been made regarding this behavior. Keep in mind that individual behaviors can vary, and not all narcissists may exhibit this trait.
Here are a few possible reasons why some narcissists may not like talking on the phone:
Lack of Control: Narcissists often like to be in control of interactions and conversations. In face-to-face conversations or written communication (such as texting or messaging), they may feel they have more control over the narrative, can manipulate the situation, or control the pace of the conversation. On the phone, they might feel they have less control as there are fewer visual cues and less time to carefully craft responses.
Inability to Show Superiority: Narcissists typically desire to maintain a sense of superiority and grandiosity in their interactions. In a phone call, they may not be able to show off their possessions, achievements, or body language as easily as they could in person.
Limited Narcissistic Supply: Narcissists crave attention and admiration, which is often referred to as "narcissistic supply." They may prefer interactions that provide more abundant narcissistic supply, such as face-to-face conversations where they can receive admiration and attention directly.
Impatience: Narcissists can be impatient and may have a low tolerance for extended conversations that don't directly benefit them. They may prefer brief, superficial interactions rather than lengthy phone calls.
Dislike of Intimacy: Some narcissists have difficulty with emotional intimacy and vulnerability. Phone calls can feel more personal and intimate than other forms of communication, leading them to avoid such interactions.
It's important to remember that not all narcissists will have the same behavior, and these reasons are just possible explanations for their avoidance of phone calls. Also, people who do not have narcissistic personality disorder may also have reasons for preferring certain communication methods over others. It's essential to approach each individual as unique and not make assumptions based solely on one characteristic.