It's not accurate to make a blanket statement that all narcissists like to go for partners who have previously been in a relationship with a narcissist. People's preferences and choices in partners are complex and can be influenced by various factors.
However, there are some patterns that may explain why a narcissist might be attracted to someone who has previously been in a relationship with a narcissist:
Vulnerability and Empathy: People who have been in relationships with narcissists before may have experienced emotional abuse and manipulation, leaving them vulnerable and more empathetic towards others. Narcissists may sense this vulnerability and empathetic nature, which can make them attractive targets for manipulation.
Familiarity with Manipulation: Individuals who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist may be more familiar with manipulative behaviors and might be less likely to immediately recognize these red flags in a new partner, especially if the new narcissist employs slightly different tactics.
Repetition of Patterns: Sometimes, people unknowingly repeat patterns from past relationships. If someone has unresolved issues or trauma from a previous relationship with a narcissist, they may unconsciously be drawn to similar dynamics, which a new narcissist can exploit.
Codependency Tendencies: Those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist before may develop codependent tendencies, seeking validation and approval from their partners. Narcissists often seek out codependent individuals who are more likely to tolerate their manipulative behaviors and stay in the relationship despite mistreatment.
Supply Seeking: Narcissists are often seeking narcissistic supply, which refers to the attention, admiration, and validation they receive from others. If they detect that someone has a history of being in relationships with narcissists, they may view them as more likely to provide the level of attention and emotional energy they desire.
It's essential to remember that not everyone who has been in a relationship with a narcissist will be targeted by another narcissist in the future. Additionally, not all relationships involving a narcissistic partner are doomed to repeat the same patterns. Awareness, personal growth, and seeking healthy relationships can break this cycle.
If you have concerns about your relationship patterns or suspect you may be dealing with a narcissist, seeking the support of a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in understanding and addressing these issues. They can help you develop healthier relationship dynamics and boundaries.