When a narcissist doesn't get the reaction they wanted from someone and the person stays silent, their thoughts and reactions can vary based on the individual and the specific situation. Here are some common responses a narcissist may have when faced with this scenario:
Frustration: A narcissist thrives on attention, admiration, and emotional reactions from others. When they don't receive the desired response, they might feel frustrated and disappointed.
Anger: The narcissist's sense of entitlement and grandiosity can lead them to expect that others will always meet their needs. When someone doesn't react as expected, they may become angry and view the lack of response as a form of defiance or disrespect.
Disregard: If the lack of reaction is perceived as a sign of the person's independence or lack of interest in the narcissist, they might disregard that person as unimportant or not worthy of their attention.
Manipulative Tactics: Some narcissists may intensify their efforts to elicit a response by using more manipulative tactics, such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or playing the victim.
Discard or Devalue: If the lack of reaction persists or if the narcissist perceives the person as a threat to their self-esteem or control, they may engage in the devaluation phase of the relationship or ultimately discard the person from their life.
Hoovering: In some cases, when a narcissist doesn't get the desired reaction initially, they may try to Hoover the person back into their life. Hoovering is a tactic where the narcissist attempts to re-engage with someone they previously discarded or who distanced themselves.
It's essential to understand that the narcissist's reactions are rooted in their own insecurities, need for control, and desire for attention and validation. When you don't give them the reaction they seek and choose to stay silent, it might disrupt their perceived power and control over you. However, this can also lead to escalated attempts to regain control or manipulate your emotions.
If you find yourself dealing with a narcissistic individual, remember that setting boundaries, seeking support from others, and prioritizing your well-being are crucial steps in managing these challenging relationships.