If your narcissist ex is stalking you on social media, there could be several reasons behind this behavior:
Maintaining Control: Narcissists often seek to maintain control over their former partners, even after a breakup. By stalking your social media, they can monitor your life, activities, and interactions, which gives them a sense of power and influence over you.
Seeking Narcissistic Supply: Narcissists crave attention, admiration, and validation from others, known as narcissistic supply. By monitoring your social media, they can get a glimpse into your life and potentially see any reactions they provoke from you or others, providing them with the attention they desire.
Fueling Their Ego: Observing your life through social media can reinforce the narcissist's belief in their own superiority. If they see you struggling or unhappy, they may feel a temporary boost to their self-esteem, as it reaffirms their notion of being better than you.
Jealousy and Possessiveness: Stalking you on social media could be a manifestation of jealousy and possessiveness. Narcissists may have difficulty accepting that you have moved on or are enjoying your life without them, and they may feel compelled to keep tabs on you to satisfy their curiosity or to sabotage your happiness.
Validation of Discard: If they were the ones who ended the relationship (discarded you), they might stalk you as a way to validate their decision. Seeing you struggling or appearing unhappy could confirm their belief that they made the right choice in ending the relationship.
Hoovering: Hoovering is a tactic used by narcissists to try to suck you back into the relationship. By monitoring your social media, they might be looking for an opportunity to re-enter your life or rekindle the connection.
It's essential to remember that narcissistic behavior is driven by their disorder, and stalking is an invasive and harmful behavior. If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe due to their stalking, consider taking steps to protect your privacy and well-being. You can adjust your social media settings to restrict their access, block them if necessary, or seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to navigate the situation and ensure your emotional well-being.