When a narcissist realizes that their smear campaign and manipulation tactics are not yielding the desired results, and former friends are siding with the other person, several possible reactions might occur:
Rage and Aggression: Narcissists can react with intense anger and aggression when they feel their control is slipping or when they believe they are losing their power over others. They might lash out verbally or even resort to more extreme measures to regain control.
Blame-Shifting: The narcissist might try to deflect responsibility and blame others for the situation, portraying themselves as the victim. They may claim that everyone is against them and attempt to manipulate sympathies.
Retreat or Silent Treatment: In some cases, when their attempts fail, the narcissist may withdraw and give the "silent treatment." This could be a temporary measure as they plan their next move or as a way to punish those who didn't side with them.
Escalation of Manipulation: When their usual tactics aren't working, narcissists may escalate their manipulation efforts. They might try new tactics or approaches to regain control and sway others to their side.
Seeking New Supply: If they perceive that their current circle of friends is turning against them, the narcissist may seek out new sources of validation and admiration elsewhere, using charm to attract new people into their orbit.
Self-Pity or Victimhood: Narcissists might adopt a self-pitying or victim mentality, portraying themselves as the one who has been wronged or misunderstood, trying to evoke sympathy from others.
Sudden "Change": In some cases, the narcissist may attempt to reinvent themselves or portray a sudden change in behavior to win back the support and loyalty of former friends.
It's important to remember that each narcissist is different, and their reactions may vary based on their personality and coping mechanisms. Regardless of their response, it's crucial for those who have recognized the manipulative behavior to continue prioritizing their well-being, setting boundaries, and avoiding further engagement with the narcissist.
When former friends start distancing themselves from the narcissist and aligning with the person who was previously targeted by the smear campaign, it's essential for them to stay strong and not be swayed by potential hoovering attempts (attempts by the narcissist to pull them back in). Support from other friends or a professional counselor can be invaluable during this time of transition and healing.