Narcissists often exhibit complex and manipulative behaviors in their relationships, and their response to confrontation with a source of supply (someone who provides them with attention, admiration, validation, etc.) is no exception. When confronted, a narcissist may react by running away and hiding due to several reasons:
Fragile self-esteem: Despite projecting an inflated sense of self-importance, narcissists often have fragile self-esteem and are deeply sensitive to criticism or perceived threats to their self-image. Confrontation can shatter their facade of superiority, leading them to feel exposed and vulnerable.
Fear of abandonment: Narcissists need a constant flow of admiration and validation from others to maintain their grandiose self-image. Confrontation may signal a potential withdrawal of support or supply from the person confronting them, triggering their fear of abandonment.
Avoiding accountability: Narcissists typically have difficulty acknowledging their faults or taking responsibility for their actions. When confronted, they might evade accountability by retreating or denying any wrongdoing.
Control and power dynamics: Narcissists thrive on maintaining control over their relationships and will do whatever it takes to preserve their dominance. By running away and hiding, they can gain a temporary upper hand by avoiding the confrontation or manipulating the situation in their favor later.
Emotional manipulation: Leaving the scene or hiding can be a tactic to elicit sympathy or concern from the person confronting them, playing on their emotions and making the person feel guilty for confronting the narcissist.
Lack of empathy: Narcissists generally lack empathy and emotional understanding, making it challenging for them to engage in healthy conflict resolution. Running away and hiding is an easier way to escape dealing with emotions or empathy for others.
Preserving their self-image: Narcissists often maintain an idealized self-image and dislike any threats to this image. Confrontation can force them to confront their flaws, which they may not be ready to do.
It's important to note that not all individuals with narcissistic traits will respond in the same way. Some may lash out aggressively, while others may resort to manipulation or avoidance. Dealing with a narcissistic individual can be emotionally challenging and draining, and seeking professional support and guidance may be beneficial when navigating such relationships.