One thing a narcissist may often do in your absence is talking negatively or spreading rumors about you to others. Narcissists often feel a strong need to maintain their image and seek validation from others. When you're not around, they might take the opportunity to paint you in a negative light, exaggerate your flaws or mistakes, and try to undermine your reputation.
This behavior serves a few purposes for the narcissist:
Control and manipulation: By spreading negative information about you, they may try to control how others perceive you, making it easier for them to manipulate and control relationships or situations involving you.
Ego boost: Putting others down can boost the narcissist's ego and make them feel superior by comparison. It reinforces their belief in their own importance and superiority.
Diverting attention: By focusing on your perceived faults or mistakes, the narcissist can divert attention away from their own shortcomings or insecurities.
Smear campaign: If the narcissist feels threatened by you or sees you as a potential source of criticism or exposure, they might engage in a smear campaign to preemptively discredit you and protect their self-image.
It's important to be cautious and mindful of how a narcissist behaves, especially when you're not present. If you suspect that someone is engaging in manipulative and negative behavior behind your back, it may be essential to set boundaries and seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals to cope with the situation effectively.