Narcissists often seek to return to their ex-partners when they are low on supply for several reasons, which are related to their personality traits and emotional needs:
Familiarity and Control: Returning to an ex-partner provides a sense of familiarity and control. Narcissists tend to view their relationships as extensions of themselves, and they may perceive their ex-partners as possessions or objects they can manipulate. Going back to a previous relationship allows them to regain a sense of power and dominance.
Easy Source of Supply: Narcissists thrive on attention, admiration, and validation from others, commonly referred to as "narcissistic supply." An ex-partner, especially if they were deeply emotionally attached before, is more likely to provide this supply readily, as there might still be lingering emotional connections and vulnerability.
Idealization Phase: In the early stages of a relationship, narcissists tend to idealize their partners, putting them on a pedestal and seeing them as perfect. When they return to an ex-partner, they may re-enter this idealization phase, which provides an initial surge of narcissistic supply.
Avoiding Vulnerability: Starting a new relationship involves vulnerability and uncertainty. Narcissists might fear rejection or not being able to control a new partner's feelings or reactions. Going back to an ex-partner allows them to avoid these uncertainties and minimize the risk of rejection.
Emotional Manipulation: Narcissists are skilled emotional manipulators. They may play on their ex-partner's emotions, guilt, or sense of loyalty to lure them back into a relationship. This manipulation can make it easier for the narcissist to get their needs met without putting in much effort.
Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often lack empathy and have difficulty understanding or caring about the emotional impact their actions have on others. They may not consider the consequences of returning to an ex-partner, even if it's harmful or hurtful to them.
It's important to note that not all narcissists will return to their ex-partners when they are low on supply. Some may seek new partners, while others might oscillate between old and new sources of supply, depending on the specific circumstances and their level of manipulation skills.
If you find yourself involved with a narcissist, it's crucial to prioritize your well-being and consider seeking professional support to navigate the complexities of the relationship and to protect yourself from emotional harm.