In narcissistic families, there is often a designated scapegoat who is unfairly blamed for problems and difficulties within the family, while the narcissistic parent or parents may favor another child or children, often referred to as the golden child. The scapegoat is typically the target of criticism, emotional abuse, and blame, even for issues that are not their responsibility.
Validation of the abuse experienced by the scapegoat can vary widely depending on the specific family dynamics and the willingness of other family members to acknowledge the dysfunction. In some cases, other family members, such as non-narcissistic parents, siblings, or extended family, may recognize the scapegoat's mistreatment and provide validation and support. They may offer understanding, empathy, and acknowledgment of the scapegoat's pain and suffering.
However, it is also common for other family members to be enmeshed in the narcissistic dynamics, either as enablers or as fellow victims of the narcissistic parent's manipulation. These enablers may choose to deny or minimize the abuse, blame the scapegoat, or turn a blind eye to maintain peace within the family or to avoid becoming targets themselves. As a result, the scapegoat may feel further isolated and invalidated, which can exacerbate the emotional distress they experience.
It is crucial to understand that the dynamics within narcissistic families can be highly complex, and the level of validation and support the scapegoat receives can vary significantly. Finding validation and support outside the family, such as from friends, mentors, therapists, or support groups, can be crucial for the healing and recovery of the scapegoat. Seeking professional help from a therapist who is knowledgeable about narcissistic abuse can also be beneficial in understanding and processing the experiences and emotions associated with being the scapegoat in a narcissistic family.