It is not uncommon for a narcissist to appear accepting of a breakup, especially if they have found a new source of validation (a new supply). When a narcissist finds a new target, they may shift their attention and focus away from their previous partner, at least for a while. However, it's essential to remember that their acceptance of the breakup may not necessarily indicate genuine emotional understanding or respect for your decision.
Here are some possible scenarios that could unfold after the breakup with a narcissist:
Hoovering: Narcissists often engage in a tactic called "hoovering," which involves trying to draw their former partner back into the relationship. They may use various manipulative tactics, such as guilt-tripping, love bombing, or playing on emotions, to regain control and validation.
Idealization of the new supply: The narcissist may appear overly enthusiastic and idealize their new partner during the initial stages of the relationship, showering them with love and attention. This is part of the love bombing phase, where the narcissist puts on a charming persona to draw in the new supply.
Devaluation of the new supply: As time goes on, the narcissist's behavior may shift, and they may start devaluing and manipulating their new partner once they feel secure in the relationship. This pattern can be distressing for the new supply as they experience emotional abuse and instability.
Triangulation: The narcissist may try to keep you as an emotional backup while they are with the new supply. They might continue talking to you to ensure they have a reliable source of validation or attention in case the new relationship doesn't work out as expected.
Moving on from you: Some narcissists may genuinely move on and lose interest in their previous partner when they find a new source of admiration. However, this is not always the case, and they might circle back to you at some point.
Self-reflection and change (unlikely): In rare instances, a narcissist may experience significant life events or undergo therapy that leads to self-awareness and personal growth. However, the chances of this happening are relatively low due to the nature of narcissistic personality traits.
If you have ended the relationship with a narcissist, it's crucial to focus on your own healing and well-being. Breaking free from a relationship with a narcissist can be emotionally challenging, and you may experience a range of emotions, including relief, sadness, and confusion. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional who can help you navigate through this difficult time and build healthier relationships in the future. Remember to prioritize self-care and establish boundaries to protect yourself from potential attempts of manipulation or hoovering from the narcissist.