A narcissist's behavior is primarily driven by their own sense of entitlement, grandiosity, and need for admiration. While they may appear to show respect or value certain individuals at times, including women, it is often part of their manipulative tactics rather than genuine respect.
Narcissists tend to engage in what is called "idealization and devaluation" cycles. In the idealization phase, they may put their partner or a person they admire on a pedestal, showering them with affection and praise. However, this is often a superficial act to win admiration and control over the other person.
Once the narcissist feels they have gained enough control or the person doesn't meet their idealized expectations, they may switch to the devaluation phase. In this stage, they might devalue and demean the person, criticize them, and treat them poorly. This cycle can be repeated over and over in relationships with narcissists, causing significant emotional harm to the individuals involved.
It is essential to understand that a narcissist's respect is conditional and often aimed at fulfilling their own needs rather than genuinely valuing the other person. Whether it's a man or a woman, a narcissist is more likely to prioritize their own desires and manipulate others to serve their interests.
Attempting to earn respect or avoid devaluation from a narcissist can be emotionally draining and challenging. It is crucial for individuals in such relationships to recognize the toxic dynamic and consider seeking professional support to navigate their situation and make decisions that prioritize their well-being. In some cases, ending the relationship may be the best option to protect one's mental and emotional health.