Yes, it is possible for a narcissist to come back after a discard and divorce, but the likelihood of this happening can vary depending on individual circumstances. Narcissists often have a pattern of discarding and then attempting to hoover (manipulate and draw back) their former partners.
Here are some scenarios to consider:
Hoovering: After a discard, a narcissist may attempt to re-enter their former partner's life through "hoovering" techniques. Hoovering involves tactics like excessive flattery, apologies, promises to change, or even threats and manipulation to get the person back under their control. This is often driven by the narcissist's desire for validation, control, or a fear of being abandoned.
Idealization Phase: If a narcissist succeeds in hoovering their ex-partner back into the relationship, they may re-enter the idealization phase where they love bomb and show excessive affection to win them over once again.
Power and Control: For some narcissists, returning to a discarded partner gives them a sense of power and control over that person. They may enjoy the feeling of having someone at their disposal and may use this to their advantage.
Seeking Validation: Narcissists crave constant validation and attention. Returning to a previous partner who they know had feelings for them can be an easy way for them to fulfill this need.
Fear of Being Alone: Narcissists often have a fear of being alone and may find it difficult to cope without a constant source of admiration and attention. Returning to a previous partner provides them with the emotional supply they crave.
However, it is crucial to remember that rekindling a relationship with a narcissist is not a healthy or sustainable solution. The same toxic patterns and behaviors that led to the discard and divorce are likely to resurface. Trying to re-establish a relationship with a narcissist can be emotionally damaging and hinder personal growth and healing.
If you have gone through a divorce or discard involving a narcissistic partner, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Healing from a relationship with a narcissist can be challenging, but it is possible with the right support and self-care.