Narcissists, individuals with a personality disorder characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, typically seek out and exploit sources of narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply refers to the attention, admiration, and validation they receive from others, which helps fuel their ego and maintain their self-image.
Whether narcissists prefer old supply or new supply can vary depending on the individual and their specific circumstances. Here are some factors that can influence their preference:
Novelty and excitement: Narcissists may be drawn to new supply sources because they offer novelty, excitement, and the potential for greater admiration and attention. The initial phase of a new relationship or encounter may provide a more intense rush of narcissistic supply.
Idealization and devaluation cycles: Narcissists often follow a pattern of idealization and devaluation in their relationships. In the idealization phase, they put their source of supply on a pedestal and shower them with attention and affection. However, over time, they may start to devalue the same person, finding faults and losing interest. When this happens, the narcissist may seek out new supply sources to restart the cycle.
Fear of abandonment: Some narcissists fear being abandoned or rejected, so they may keep old supply sources around as a backup or safety net. This way, if a new supply source doesn't provide the expected level of admiration or attention, they can return to familiar sources for validation.
Control and manipulation: Narcissists often crave control over others, and they may maintain relationships with old supply sources to manipulate and exploit them further. These individuals might be easier to control since they have already been groomed by the narcissist.
Sustaining a false self-image: Continuously acquiring new supply sources can reinforce the narcissist's perception of themselves as attractive, charming, and influential. Having a constant stream of new admirers can help them avoid facing their true self or any insecurities.
It's important to note that individual narcissists can have different preferences and behaviors. Some may focus more on seeking new supply to bolster their ego, while others might rely on a combination of old and new sources to fulfill their needs.
If you are dealing with a narcissistic individual or believe you are a source of narcissistic supply, it's crucial to recognize the patterns and seek support from a mental health professional who can provide guidance and help navigate these challenging dynamics.