Like their male counterparts, female narcissists also seek validation, admiration, and control in their relationships. However, the specific desires and behaviors of a female narcissist can vary based on individual personalities and circumstances. Here are some common traits and desires that female narcissists may exhibit:
Attention and admiration: Female narcissists crave attention and admiration from others. They often seek validation for their appearance, achievements, or perceived superiority.
Manipulation and control: Female narcissists may use manipulation tactics to gain control over others and situations. They can be highly skilled at influencing and exploiting people to serve their needs and desires.
Emotional validation: While they might not readily offer empathy or emotional support to others, they seek validation and emotional reinforcement from others themselves.
Competition and envy: Female narcissists may feel envious of others' successes or qualities and may be driven to compete with or undermine those they see as threats to their self-image.
Grandiosity and entitlement: Similar to male narcissists, female narcissists may have an inflated sense of self-importance and entitlement, believing they deserve special treatment or privileges.
Idealization and devaluation: They may engage in idealizing others at the beginning of a relationship and then devalue them later on if their expectations are not met.
Lack of empathy: Female narcissists often struggle to empathize with others' emotions and may appear indifferent to the needs and feelings of those around them.
Attention to appearance and status: They might place a high value on their physical appearance and social status, using these aspects to gain attention and admiration.
Exploitative behavior: Female narcissists can be exploitative in their relationships, using people for personal gain without consideration for their well-being.
Fragile self-esteem: Despite their grandiose behavior, female narcissists may have fragile self-esteem that requires constant reinforcement from others.
It's important to note that not all individuals who display some narcissistic traits are diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). People can have narcissistic tendencies without meeting the full criteria for NPD. Additionally, the severity and combination of traits can differ among individuals.
Dealing with a female narcissist can be challenging, just as it is with any narcissistic individual. If you find yourself in such a situation, setting boundaries and seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can be beneficial for your well-being.