When a narcissist's attempts to provoke emotional reactions or "baiting" no longer yield the desired response, their behavior can change in several ways. It's important to remember that narcissists seek attention, validation, and control in their relationships, and when they no longer achieve those goals through baiting, they may react in various manners:
Intensify Their Efforts: Initially, a narcissist might increase their attempts to provoke a reaction from you. They may try different tactics, become more persistent, or escalate their behavior to regain control over the situation and re-establish their sense of power.
Discard and Move On: If they realize that their baiting is not working and you are no longer a source of narcissistic supply, they may lose interest in you and discard you. They might start looking for a new supply who responds to their manipulations and feeds their ego.
Hoovering: If they find themselves unable to get a reaction from you, a narcissist might resort to "hoovering," which refers to attempts to draw you back into the relationship. They may use love-bombing (being overly affectionate) or apologize profusely to reel you back in.
Gaslighting: When you stop reacting to their baiting, they may employ gaslighting tactics, trying to make you doubt your perception of reality and your emotional responses. They may claim that you are overreacting or misunderstanding their intentions to make you question your own feelings.
Seek Alternative Sources: If they cannot get the desired reactions from you, narcissists might seek attention and validation from other sources, such as friends, family, or new potential partners.
Retaliation: In some cases, when a narcissist feels their control slipping away, they may resort to aggressive or vindictive behavior. They might try to smear your reputation, engage in character assassination, or use other manipulative tactics to damage your self-esteem and isolate you from support systems.
It's crucial to remember that dealing with a narcissist can be challenging and emotionally draining. Setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being is essential. If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, seeking support from friends, family, or a qualified therapist can be valuable in navigating the situation and protecting your emotional health.