Narcissists can approach relationships differently depending on the individual and their specific traits, but generally, they tend to view others as "supplies" to meet their emotional needs rather than genuine partners with whom they seek long-term connections. Their primary focus is on seeking validation, admiration, and control over others to boost their own self-esteem. This often results in superficial and exploitative relationships.
In the beginning stages of a relationship, a narcissist may seem charming, attentive, and interested in pursuing a long-term connection to secure the new supply. They may idealize the person, making them feel special and desired. However, this initial phase is often a temporary act known as "love bombing." The narcissist showers the new supply with affection and attention, drawing them in and creating an emotional bond.
As the relationship progresses, the narcissist's true colors begin to show. They may become more controlling, emotionally abusive, and dismissive of their partner's needs and feelings. They tend to devalue and discard the new supply once they no longer serve their purposes or when the narcissist finds someone else who can provide more admiration and attention. This cycle of idealization, devaluation, and discard can repeat with different partners as the narcissist seeks new sources of validation and ego-stroking.
It's essential to recognize the red flags of a narcissistic relationship and prioritize your well-being if you suspect you are involved with a narcissist. Healthy relationships involve mutual respect, empathy, and a willingness to compromise, while narcissistic relationships are often one-sided and emotionally draining.
If you believe you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it's crucial to seek support from friends, family, or a professional therapist who can help you navigate the challenges of disengaging from such a toxic dynamic and rebuilding your self-esteem and emotional well-being.