The concept of "No Contact" refers to a strategy often recommended for individuals dealing with a narcissistic relationship. It involves cutting off all communication and interaction with the narcissist to protect oneself from further emotional harm and manipulation. While "No Contact" can be an effective method for setting boundaries and regaining personal strength, it's important to understand that it may not necessarily make a narcissist miss you in the way you might hope for or expect.
Narcissists tend to view relationships and others in a highly self-centered manner. Their primary concern is their own needs, desires, and sense of control. When you initiate "No Contact," it's unlikely to evoke feelings of genuine missing or longing from the narcissist because they are more likely to be focused on their own immediate needs and finding other sources of validation and attention.
However, there are some potential outcomes when implementing "No Contact":
Hoovering: After some time, the narcissist might attempt to "hoover" you back into the relationship. "Hoovering" is a term used to describe their efforts to re-establish contact when they feel they need something from you or are experiencing a lack of narcissistic supply (attention, admiration, validation).
Anger or Retaliation: A narcissist may react negatively to the perceived rejection caused by "No Contact." They might become angry, attempt to smear your reputation, or even engage in retaliatory behaviors.
Reflection of Their Loss: Though it may not be a genuine sense of missing you, a narcissist might realize they no longer have control over you or access to their usual supply of attention and validation. This realization might lead them to look for new sources of supply.
Self-Reflection (Rare): In very rare cases, "No Contact" might lead a narcissist to engage in self-reflection and personal growth, but this is highly unlikely, given the nature of narcissistic personality disorder.
It's crucial to understand that "No Contact" is primarily for your well-being and not a tool to manipulate or control the narcissist's emotions. It allows you to focus on healing, setting boundaries, and building a healthier life without the toxic influence of the narcissist. If you are dealing with the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be immensely beneficial in navigating the healing process.