When a narcissist loses control over their victim and their attempts to manipulate using flying monkeys (people they use to do their bidding or spread their influence), several things might happen:
Rage and Anger: Narcissists have fragile egos and a sense of entitlement. Losing control can trigger intense rage and anger in them, as they feel their power slipping away.
Intensified Manipulation Attempts: The narcissist may escalate their efforts to regain control over the victim. They might resort to more aggressive manipulation tactics, including gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and smear campaigns.
Discard and Devaluation: If the narcissist realizes that they can no longer control the victim, they may discard them and devalue them in their eyes. This can involve demeaning or belittling the victim and making them feel worthless.
Hoovering: After the discard phase, some narcissists may try to "hoover" the victim back into their lives. Hoovering refers to attempts to reel the victim back in by using charm, promises of change, or acts of kindness. This is a tactic to reestablish control over the victim.
Isolation: The narcissist might attempt to isolate the victim further, spreading rumors or misinformation to alienate them from friends, family, or support systems.
Targeting the Victim's Weaknesses: If the narcissist knows the victim's vulnerabilities, they might use this knowledge to exploit and manipulate them further, trying to regain control.
Loss of Flying Monkeys: If the narcissist's flying monkeys become aware of the narcissist's true nature or the harm they are causing, they may distance themselves from the narcissist and stop enabling their behavior.
Escalating Drama: Some narcissists may create drama and chaos to distract others from the truth and maintain a sense of control over the narrative.
It's important to remember that every narcissist is different, and their reactions can vary based on their personality and the specific situation. When dealing with a narcissist or recovering from a relationship with one, seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can be crucial to healing and moving forward.