Yes, narcissists can go silent for long periods as part of their manipulative tactics and control over others. This behavior is known as the "silent treatment" or "stonewalling." It is a form of emotional abuse where the narcissist intentionally ignores, avoids, or refuses to communicate with their victim for an extended period.
Here's why narcissists may use the silent treatment:
Power and Control: Narcissists use the silent treatment as a way to exert power and control over their victims. By withdrawing attention, affection, and communication, they aim to make the victim feel anxious, insecure, and desperate for their approval.
Punishment: When a narcissist feels slighted, criticized, or rejected, they may use the silent treatment as a means of punishing the other person. It is a passive-aggressive way for them to express their displeasure or to manipulate the victim into complying with their wishes.
Emotional Manipulation: The silent treatment is a form of emotional manipulation to manipulate the victim's emotions and behavior. The victim may become more compliant, apologetic, or self-doubting in an attempt to get the narcissist to engage with them again.
Avoiding Accountability: By going silent, the narcissist avoids having to address conflicts or take responsibility for their actions. It allows them to escape uncomfortable conversations or any accountability for their behavior.
Hoovering: After giving the silent treatment, a narcissist may switch to "hoovering," a tactic where they reappear and act loving, caring, or remorseful to draw the victim back into the relationship.
The duration of the silent treatment can vary depending on the narcissist's personality, the severity of the perceived offense, and the level of control they want to exert. It can last anywhere from a few hours to several days, weeks, or even months in some cases.
It's important to note that the silent treatment is emotionally harmful to the victim and can have long-lasting effects on their mental and emotional well-being. If you are experiencing this type of behavior in a relationship, consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional to help you cope and navigate through the situation.