Yes, a narcissist can still be emotionally attached or "stuck" on an old supply even while in a new relationship with someone else. A narcissist's relationships are often driven by their need for validation, admiration, and control. They form intense emotional bonds with their targets, known as "supplies" or "sources," who provide them with the admiration and attention they crave.
When a narcissist is with a new partner, they may appear to be fully invested in that relationship, especially during the idealization or love-bombing phase. However, it's important to understand that narcissists view their partners as objects to fulfill their needs, rather than individuals with their own emotions and desires.
The emotional attachment to an old supply can persist for several reasons:
Triangulation: Narcissists commonly use triangulation, which involves keeping multiple sources of validation simultaneously. They may maintain contact with old supplies to create jealousy or competition among their current partner and past targets.
Narcissistic Supply: The emotional bond formed during a previous relationship can continue to provide the narcissist with a sense of validation and self-worth. Even if the old supply is no longer a primary source, they may still reach out to them for an ego boost when needed.
Fear of Abandonment: Narcissists fear rejection and abandonment. They might keep old supplies around as a backup plan in case the new relationship fails or to protect themselves from feeling abandoned.
Control and Manipulation: By keeping an old supply "on the hook," a narcissist can exert control over them and manipulate their emotions, even from a distance. This can give the narcissist a sense of power and superiority.
Nostalgia: Narcissists might revisit past relationships when they feel nostalgic or when their current partner fails to meet their inflated expectations. The past might be idealized, and they may seek emotional validation by reconnecting with old supplies.
It's important to remember that the behavior of a narcissist is driven by their deep-seated personality traits and emotional needs. They may continue to exploit past supplies even while in new relationships, which can lead to emotional confusion, manipulation, and distress for all parties involved.
If you find yourself dealing with a narcissistic partner or have experienced narcissistic abuse in the past, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in understanding and navigating these complex dynamics. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with a narcissist to protect your emotional well-being.