The "block/unblock game" is not a specific formal game but rather a concept or pattern of behavior that can occur in relationships involving a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies. It's a metaphor used to describe the manipulative behavior of narcissists during the course of a relationship.
In this context, the "block/unblock game" refers to the cycle of idealization and devaluation that often characterizes narcissistic relationships. Here's how it typically unfolds:
Idealization: At the beginning of the relationship or during periods of reconciliation, the narcissist engages in love-bombing, where they shower their partner with affection, praise, and attention. This phase can be incredibly intense, and the victim may feel deeply loved and cherished.
Devaluation: As the relationship progresses or during times of conflict, the narcissist's true traits start to emerge. They may become critical, emotionally distant, or even abusive. The narcissist may devalue their partner, belittling them, undermining their self-esteem, and making them feel unworthy or inadequate.
Blocking: During the devaluation phase, the narcissist may emotionally or physically withdraw from the relationship. They might give their partner the silent treatment, ignore them, or block communication channels (e.g., on social media or messaging platforms).
Unblocking: After a period of ignoring or distancing themselves, the narcissist may suddenly reappear, offering apologies, affection, and promises of change. They may unblock their partner and reinitiate contact as a way to regain control or keep the partner emotionally invested.
Repeat: The cycle then repeats itself, with the narcissist alternating between idealization and devaluation, keeping their partner off-balance and emotionally dependent.
This cycle can be incredibly damaging to the victim's emotional well-being and can create a sense of confusion and self-doubt. The victim may become trapped in the hope that the loving and caring behavior displayed during the idealization phase will return, while constantly fearing the return of the hurtful devaluation phase.
It's important for individuals who find themselves caught in this kind of toxic relationship to recognize the pattern and seek support. Narcissistic abuse is harmful and can have long-lasting effects on a person's mental health and self-esteem. Seeking help from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial in understanding and addressing the dynamics of such relationships and taking steps towards healing and breaking free from the cycle of abuse.