When a narcissist discards a previous source of supply (a person they have been using for validation, admiration, and attention), their reaction and feelings can vary widely based on the individual and their specific personality traits. Here are some common scenarios:
Lack of Genuine Emotion: Narcissists typically lack genuine emotional connections with others, so they may not experience traditional feelings of missing someone in the way most people do. Instead, they may feel a loss of control or power over their former source of supply, which can be frustrating or infuriating to them.
Seeking New Supply: Once a narcissist discards a previous source of supply, they often move on quickly to find new sources of admiration and validation. This might include new romantic partners, friends, or acquaintances who can fulfill their needs for attention and admiration.
Idealizing the Past: In some cases, a narcissist might idealize the past or the memories of their previous source of supply. They might reminisce about the positive aspects of the relationship or how that person made them feel special, but this is more about nostalgia for the ego boost they received rather than genuine emotional attachment.
Rekindling Interest: There may be instances where a narcissist attempts to re-engage with a discarded source of supply if they believe they can gain something from them again. This could be to rekindle a romantic relationship or to use them for some other purpose, such as seeking financial support or social status.
Feeling Rejected: Although a narcissist may not truly miss the person in the conventional sense, they may feel a sense of rejection or wounded pride if the previous source of supply moves on and appears to be thriving without them.
It's important to remember that narcissists primarily view relationships as a means to satisfy their own needs rather than as mutually fulfilling connections. They often lack the capacity for true empathy and emotional reciprocity, which makes it challenging for them to experience deep emotions or authentic connections with others.
If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist or suspect someone in your life may be one, seeking support from a mental health professional can be beneficial in navigating the complexities of such relationships and the emotions they can evoke.