In some cases, a previous romantic partner or "old supply" of a narcissist might be aware of the narcissist's new partner ("new supply") and still engage in sexual activity with the narcissist. Several factors could contribute to this behavior, though it's important to remember that individual motivations can vary, and not everyone will react in the same way. Here are some possible reasons:
Emotional attachment: The "old supply" might still have emotional ties to the narcissist, even after the relationship has ended. These feelings could make it difficult for them to fully disconnect from the narcissist, leading to continued involvement.
Manipulation and charm: Narcissists are often skilled at manipulation and can use charm and flattery to maintain influence over their former partners. They might exploit the emotions of the old supply to keep them engaged in some capacity.
Sense of validation: The narcissist may make the old supply feel needed or valued by seeking their attention or intimacy, which could provide the old supply with a sense of validation or importance.
Unresolved issues: Sometimes, individuals might have unresolved emotional issues or unfinished business from the previous relationship, leading them to continue engaging with the narcissist.
Fear of retaliation: Narcissists can be vindictive and prone to retaliation if their desires are not met. The old supply might fear negative consequences if they cut off contact completely.
Low self-esteem or codependency: The "old supply" may struggle with low self-esteem or have codependent tendencies, making it challenging to break away from the narcissist's influence.
Lack of awareness: Some individuals might not fully recognize the extent of the narcissist's manipulative behavior or the impact it has on their well-being, which can lead to continued involvement.
Hope for change: There could be a belief that the narcissist will change or that the relationship will improve, leading the old supply to hold on to hope and stay connected.
It's crucial to understand that being involved with a narcissist can be emotionally complex and psychologically challenging. In such situations, seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional can be beneficial to help process emotions, gain clarity, and make healthier decisions for one's well-being. Breaking free from the influence of a narcissist can be difficult, but with the right support, healing and growth are possible.