I can provide information on how silence may affect a narcissist after they discard someone.
When a narcissist discards someone, they typically expect a reaction from the person they've discarded. This reaction could be anything from begging for forgiveness, expressing sadness, or trying to win the narcissist back. The narcissist thrives on attention and validation, so any response that confirms their significance and control over the individual can be satisfying to them.
However, when the discarded person responds with silence and refuses to engage in the expected emotional reactions, it can have several effects on the narcissist:
Frustration and confusion: Narcissists are used to manipulating and eliciting responses from others. When their discarded target goes silent, it frustrates the narcissist's attempts to control the situation and gain validation. They may become confused about why their tactics aren't working.
Narcissistic injury: A narcissist's ego is fragile, and any perceived rejection can lead to a narcissistic injury. The silence from the discarded person may be interpreted as rejection, which can trigger feelings of anger, hurt, or inadequacy in the narcissist.
Increased hoovering attempts: Hoovering is a tactic used by narcissists to draw their former targets back into the relationship. When the discarded person remains silent, the narcissist may escalate their efforts to reestablish contact, trying various means to break the silence.
Seeking new sources of validation: Narcissists constantly seek validation and admiration from others. If their discarded target doesn't respond, the narcissist may try to find new sources of validation elsewhere to fill the emotional void.
Self-doubt and paranoia: In some cases, the silence from the discarded person might make the narcissist doubt themselves and their abilities to control and manipulate others. They may become paranoid, wondering if the person is plotting revenge or talking negatively about them to others.
It's important to note that dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, and the best course of action may vary depending on the situation and the level of danger involved. In some cases, maintaining no contact with the narcissist and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can be beneficial for the person who has been discarded.