Yes, individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often struggle with seeing others in a balanced and nuanced way. This difficulty in perceiving both the good and bad in others is related to the characteristic symptoms of the disorder.
One of the hallmark features of BPD is a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships. This pattern is often marked by a cycle of idealization and devaluation of others, which can happen rapidly and unpredictably. During the idealization phase, individuals with BPD may view others as perfect, putting them on a pedestal and seeing only their positive traits. They may become overly attached and emotionally dependent on the other person during this phase.
However, as the relationship progresses or as perceived flaws or disappointments arise, the person with BPD may shift into the devaluation phase. During this stage, they may suddenly see the same individual as all bad, disregarding any positive attributes and intensely criticizing or rejecting them. This pattern can create significant instability in their relationships and cause distress for both the person with BPD and the people around them.
This black-and-white thinking, known as "splitting," is a common cognitive distortion in BPD and can lead to difficulties in understanding the complexity and gray areas of human relationships. It can make it challenging for individuals with BPD to have a balanced and realistic view of others, leading to a rollercoaster of emotions in their relationships.
It's important to note that not all individuals with BPD experience splitting, and the severity and frequency of this behavior can vary from person to person. Treatment approaches, such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can help individuals with BPD develop healthier ways of perceiving and managing their relationships and emotions. If you or someone you know is struggling with BPD or any other mental health concerns, seeking professional help from a mental health provider is highly recommended.