Yes, someone can be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and not be in a romantic relationship. BPD is a mental health disorder characterized by unstable moods, behavior, and relationships. While difficulties in forming and maintaining relationships are a common feature of BPD, it doesn't mean that every individual with this diagnosis will be in a romantic relationship at all times.
People with BPD may struggle with intense and rapidly shifting emotions, have difficulties with self-image, experience fear of abandonment, and exhibit impulsive behaviors. These challenges can make it challenging to maintain stable and healthy relationships, including romantic ones.
However, the presence or absence of a romantic relationship does not determine whether someone has BPD. The diagnosis is based on a comprehensive assessment by a qualified mental health professional who considers various criteria outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).
Individuals with BPD may have diverse relationship experiences, and some may choose not to be in a romantic relationship at certain points in their lives, while others may be in relationships that are affected by the symptoms of the disorder. The impact of BPD on relationships can vary greatly from person to person. Seeking therapy and support can be beneficial for individuals with BPD, regardless of their relationship status, to learn coping strategies and improve their emotional well-being and interpersonal skills.